christian domestic discipline testimonials

Careful, Julie Anne, true alpha females dont go over the top. Who cares? :o). That is the irony. During this time my behavior, and our marriage improved through my daily spanking, but Ben was lacking in giving me spankings when I misbehaved, something I tearfully confessed during one of our meetings. Take heed then to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth., I think youd be surprised at how educated these people are. This is just like disciplining kids, just discipline. My brothers were never spanked after the age of 13 but we girls were spanked by dad followed by an hour of corner time bare bottomed in the living room just like Mom until we got married. The clip is just over one minute long: After reading Laurens letter and sharing back and forth e-mails, I had so many questions. While he never threatened my life physically and I still think he would never have that in him, the fact is that the abuse did threaten my life in terms of making me feel very alone and afraid not very good inside. Jamin usually keeps a pistol under the mattress and one on top of the refrigerator. [I then asked Lauren if shed be willing to share her story anonymously.]. Anyone who can inspire such bitterness in us still has a hold over us. 1Tim 2:12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. Often, my HOH goes with my ideas. The call to statistics to justify that since it has to be abusive most of the time, it would be better to simply outlaw it. (LogOut/ Webchristian domestic discipline; Corset Waist Training; Deep Thoughts; Exercise and Chocolate; Fiction; maintenance; marriage; my submissiveness; Orgasm Control; Pierced Nipples; Punishment; Spanking; Submission; swingers In fact, if such anger is not expressed, it must be suppressedonly to come out sidewise at some unexpected time. I got spanked as a child and so did my brother and we turned out great! 50 SHADES OF GREY AND PATRIARCHY: WHAT EXACTLY DID WE EXPECT? But to broaden that out and say that no woman should ever be spanked tramples on individual conscience. You are even free to self-congratulate and to think that your lifestyle makes you morally superior to others. and going through Judges 4:9 all the way to Eph 5:23 and 1Tim 2:12). The safety plan needs to be reviewed and modified whenever the situation changes e.g. [redacted] never told the investigating deputy the truth about what was going on that night because Jamin told her they would both be arrested, and law enforcement would take their children away. Tell him to clear off out of your life. of Lone Voice, Because of his behavior with no rage, just an expectancy of needing to control you, it makes me think this was normal within his background or upbringing. The best way to get help for high risk cases of domestic abuse is to ring the DV Hotline in your country. And dont tell me you never wanted to have sex on an altar! Lydia: Just saying my exegesis (please note the spelling) is wrong does not establish that it is. You take it up with him., the wife and the husband having power or authority over each others bodies is in the context of them not refusing each other conjugal relations (due benevolence). It took a long time for me to have the strength to leave him. Time to go. WebThen I went to college and met my husband James, and became a Christian. The last paragraph of Laurens e-mail revealed her parentssided with Laurens husband and believed her to be disobedient to her husband. Why isnt child spanking just as abusive as wife spanking? For this is also the main way families have been organized for thousands of years. Regarding your link, Id actually view the success of 50 shades as a consequence of so many women not having an example of real masculinity in their lifeso they go for the fake, which is Christian Gray or whoever. Well, thats their altar. 1. Ben is a very strict HOH, and I love him very much because of it. Our church also pushed heavily this idea of modesty even at young levels. Following this lifestyle that you have described has turned us around completely. Twosummers ago, I received a phone call from a pastor who shared his growing concern about wife-spanking in his family of churches. On the opposite, I hope that we will maintain an environment in which we can all live our lives in our own terms, however this obviously doesnt seem to be your agenda, you seem decided to fix society and down-look at people who think in a way radically different than you. As far as Im concerned, it should be called assault and reported to authorities immediately. His thumb nail was shorter but still long enough to make the marks I saw on the left side of [redacted] neck. As far as your point is made. You simply cannot say that as the visitors at my site are widely diverse. I agree with that. Please remember blog rules. Im not a 15 year old kid still living under my fathers and mothers authority. You study the Scriptures diligently because you think that in them you have eternal life. Dark child, your nickname tells me something about your view. Its the word of God: I am doing much better now and am very glad to be removed from all that. My daughters and I attend Sunday school that our pastor does for all the women who get spanked when they are bad. They took all her her clothes off in front of everybody and then she got a spanking by the Pastor and her husband with their belts. Most of these husbands never believed their wives would ever accept CDD, but today the majority of their wives do. Women werent squelched when they were told to TELL MEN that Jesus had resurrected. After a while I learned that this was really Gods plan for the household and wanted it for myself when I was married. A Lone Voice, you have major issues with women having the right to say NO to men. Gen 2:23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. I submit that, no matter what, 100pinkapples is our sister, and that Lone Voice is not to be received as a brother. Hes not a victim, hes a kinky dude with odd underwear. But since then youve gone on to talk as though male headship is required in all Christian marriages, and as though feminism is some kind of dirty word. We are touching, hugging, playfully spanking, and making more love than ever before. I love how men take 2 verses in Genesis and squelch women for all of eternity. For better or worse, most states had laws restricting what was allowable between husband and wife in the bedroom. I find your style offensive. I have never married. I wish there wasnt a knee-jerk reaction to the word submissive but unfortunately there is such a stigma. But even then, it is always amazing how Eph 5:21 always ignored. I am a submissive wife but do not always submit. Not to mention I find it tremendously sexy and attractive. Jesus taught that followers of his are not to lord authority over each other, but you are advocating that. My father made us go to church three times a week, and he read us the bible every night. Most of the time, my husband is like, Sure, baby. They employ demands for forgiveness in a manner that makes forgiveness the Evangelical Christian F word. They then work out a document, a 30-page document describing every aspect of the relationship (the superior/inferior nature and all its practical implications, when and how spanking is to be performed, what the man can and cannot do, what the woman can and cannot do etc). When I got older and was being bullied or harassed by other men or women, you know who defended me? When you said, Why are saddle-wearing men seen as free agents, capable of free thought, in direction of their own life? I debated putting this in the Godly ladies' thread but decided that I would risk my reputation to be thought of as forward because this is just too good to keep from men. There is a great website written by a former feminist who now lives this life with her husband, as well as their daughters with their husbands. its called, http://lisasjoydd.blogspot.com. How do you feel about men that have a fetish to be demeaned and abused in the bedroom by women? i cant agree more , this lady deserved a good hard spanking to remind her of her proper place as an obedient and submissive helpmeet. Despite what you think, domestic discipline is not some sort of mindless activity done by brutal men and victimized women. Wait? Why cant we just say hitting people is abusive whether it is a child or adult being victimized. 4 and her father hears about her vow or pledge but says nothing to her, then all her vows and every pledge by which she obligated herself will stand. To say that I consented to be spanked, or to say that even an adult woman consents to being spanked simply because she remains in that situation is to make a mockery of the word consent. Ben also has no problem spanking me long after I start to cry. My life changed when I was 31. How? The Bible does not teach that men have God given authority over women. Thats my responsibility as a believer and as a thinking adult. I would encourage you to visit the following site, especially their blog section Im over 40 years of age and in charge of my own life. Daisy, just where in the Gospels did Christ say, I say Genesis 3:16 is not to be followed any more? You write as though no woman in the Bible had any learning. There are many things practiced all over the globe that would not be suitable for Christians. (Both know of the relationship my husband and I have, as we have talked with them about the joys of a CDD relationship.). No this isnt the argument at all. I never heard or suspected anything growing up. The patriarchy guys, like whats his name, Doug Whats-It? It was confusing because it felt no different than when I was at home. Many of them are even written by women in these relationships. Its as if my fathers and brother-in-laws defensive shields go up and they tune out. Here are some tidbits of the arrest report: [redacted] told me Jamin has a couple of different hunting rifles, a couple of shot guns, a Glock pistol and another silver pistol. [redacted] said Jamin has used pornography as a means of punishment towards [redacted]. Im so glad you found the strength to leave your abusive marriage. A Husbands Guide to Implementing Christian Domestic Discipline. I was able to find the two snippets from the show below: The husband in the article (and Dr. Phils show)also claimed to be a Christian (non-denominational background). Or did he simply say a prayer for him and his wife, that they would be able to work it out in a godly way? Here is a challenge for you that will expose your hypocrisy: your argue that a woman can only be tricked into that kind of relationship. When you get to point of saying that none of these can be Christian women and if they are, they jolly well need to repent of their sin, then you are straining at gnats. Thats why Hollywood had/has such a high divorce rate two stars who were independently wealthy married and then when the marriage went south, the wife knew she could divorce without losing her livelihood. I am not estranged from my parents but I did not get their support. Send in your testimonials! Thank you for writing and shedding light on another form of domestic abuse that doesnt get talked about very much. Not commenting on the way you cherry pick Bible verses out of context to make them confirm what they do not even talk about. He did it in front of his children as they watched and cried, saying that mommies get spanked for bad behavior, too. So-called Christian domestic discipline occurs in a marriage when one or both partners use biblical support to rationalize an unscriptural and un-Christian lifestyle. Isnt bullying between two consenting children? Women would rather be loved than respected. Continue reading. I would find that approach must less objectionable. My father told me as a young teenager, rape is not that big of a deal. Did you tell him why you were leaving? As a society have always restricted what two consenting adults can do. We were told that it was biblicalto spank our teenagers, even ones who were overlegal adulthood. You may be at war with Domestic Violence, and this is an honorable fight. The Bible advocates for stoning as do some Muslim countries. What was his response? When the man takes charge and makes really good, well-thought-out (and prayed for) decisions, its pretty easy for 2. This perception betrays the fact that you are hating what you do not even understand. WebThen I went to college and met my husband James, and became a Christian. My husband and I would be considered rather boring by most people. Ben and I agreed, but I wasnt sure how effective it would be, as Ben wasnt a good spanker. And now for the part that might get me consigned to the doghouse: He is one pompous donkey. You think you are just but you are what the Bible calls a mocker. Thanks, Gary. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength.First Peter 3:1 says, In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives.It is very difficult to have two heads of authority.It doesnt work in the military, it doesnt work I mean, you have one president, you know what Im saying? Candace, huffingtonpost.com, 4. Lone Voice said. The Biblical Case for Domestic Discipline, Follow Biblical Gender Roles on WordPress.com, Enduring and Overcoming the Trials and Temptations ofSingleness, Three Biblical Approaches to Sex inMarriage. It was not like he was drunk and beating me with his fists. In this first article we will demonstrate how the practice of domestic discipline aligns perfectly with Biblical principles and commands regarding marriage. Myself. This subject makes me sick. :^). Ive been thinking about this quite a bit. You can literally make the Bible say just about anything you want with some crafty proof-texting. I felt really sorry for the lady who got punished but I can tell you that she has learned her lesson and at Bible study she listens to our minister now. The whole verse says: 1Cor 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. And it goes on: 1Cor 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. You are telling 100pinkapples that she needs to take a Christian response to her abusers and to her own pain, and to see a pastor for counselling. (starting with Genesis 2:18 and 3:16 funny how many great verses in the Bible are 3:16, isnt it? You go to great lengths to make it a mental sickness and an abuse which it isnt. Its strikes me as odd that I am in the kind of relationship that we are in and, to be honest, I get what I want most of the time just by asking. As far as this message is concerned I understand and respect your point. Of course I think she deserved to get punished for complaining but I still felt bad for her. By consent is OK, we read. It is not a defense of Domestic Discipline. 1Tim 2:12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. When I got in trouble, the threat of not letting my mom hit me with a wooden spoon was that my dad would belt me, and the threat of not letting my dad belt me was essentially unimaginable. What I can however say is that what you describe isnt generally speaking the spirit of domestic discipline. Your testimonial will be added to this blog so that other people can benefit from and be inspired by your experiences with Christian Domestic Discipline. I grew up in a very conservative, Southern household and was spanked at home until I left. Thats why I always make sure I add Biblical in front so theres no confusion. Those wacky scientists have way more education than you or I, so obviously you cannot correlate education with wise and good choices. And should she submit and obey him if he asks someone else to punish her for something, including a spanking? It didnt impress Jesus. You are more than a conqueror through Jesus who loves you. Im about the only one here who actually quotes scripture. I debated putting this in the Godly ladies' thread but decided that I would risk my reputation to be thought of as forward because this is just too good to keep from men. And let me be clear what I mean by 100 percent submission. When I asked abut their secret, the answer was usually a giggle and, You should take the class on preparing your self to be a Godly wife. When I took the class that is where the concept of a CDD relationship came from. Gen 3:16 Unto the woman he said, thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. As a man and a Christian myself, I think all Christians need to listen to these stories. He did not stalk me or anything but vowed to constantly pray for me to come to my senses and return. . christian domestic discipline A History of the Corporal Discipline of Women January 11, 2023 In this third and final part of my three-part series on Christian Domestic Discipline, we explore how the practice of domestic discipline continue through the middle-ages and even into America up until the mid-20th century. This is a tool among others, people do not hit as a substitute for talking unlike what you suggest. Here spanking children is not illegal per se, but it does have its limits. I never truly fought back as if I was fighting for my life. Youre quoting a rule or law which only applied under the Old Covenant, for the Jews. The definition Im using with the word submissive is the biblical definition of that. [redacted] said Jamin is very controlling. Your horrible handling of the Bible does not inspire confidence in me at all. When the man takes charge and makes really good, well-thought-out (and prayed for) decisions, its pretty easy for wives to submit. Whats the problem with superior/inferior relationships? Just about to board the 2nd leg of my flight to Chicago. are not healthy in a relationship. Ive dated a few, been engaged to one. She has has been hospitalized many times due to his abuse but somehow he has used his position and influence to escape legal action each time. Are you serious? No, Bike Bubba, by role play I meant dressing up as a type, not as another person. The one thing that surprised me was how happy all the married couples were. I know this is true. I told Jamin I saw marks on [redacted] neck and they appeared to have been caused by the end of fingers, possibly nails. No one is tricked or trapped into that, even if you seem to have the concerning desire to save people from themselves because it just cant be right. Your inability to understand your counterpart speaks volume and certainly does not honour you. If adults have the right to spank those who disagree with them, well, I shudder to think of all the spank-fests thatd happen on every count; in every church meeting, every work-place. My name is Susie and my husband and I thought I should share with you what it is like for us to be involved in a Christian Domestic Discipline relationship. I dont know where the line is, but looking back now I think I can say that spanking even at 14 or 15 was not right and certainly not up to the age I was. Its not just me that talks about your husband having authority, Julie Anne. Im just so pleased to know that you were able to break free. Continue reading. They have since been removed from YouTube. I was sexually terrorized as a little girl by a bible loving, bible verse quoting, church going southern Baptist Christian man as a little girl. My bad experiences hardened me and now my marriage is helping me relax my rigid boundaries.I always said that I would never leave the city and here I am willingly becoming a country housewife. Mrs. Submission, christianforums.net, 10. He was so different than the other Christians I had met, many of whom tormented my Jewish best friend and my completely secular family. Glad that I could help. And, isnt that just your whole argument? You are going to have to move to a place of forgiveness. My parents were a little surprised at first but I think they see spanking as not the same as abuse. ), (Cherry picking or distorting verses such as _1 Tim 2.12_ and keep tossing them my way does not count. He has already had too much of your life.

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